The past few days have been spent cleaning, packing up our Christmas decorations, and decluttering our home. It can get really festive up in here. However, as I sit here with a cup of cocoa, typing this post, I can’t believe the year is over in three days! Where has the time gone! Does anyone else feel like time flies when you’re having fun?
Over the past year I’ve met so many wonderful people. Whether on social media or in my day-to-day life, I can say we have all had an eventful 2017. We’ve had terrible, devastating, fantastic, and wonderful experiences, but they shaped us into the person who’s walking into 2018.
2017 has been absolutely amazing to the Douglas family. I gave birth to my beautiful daughter Anaís, I married my soulmate, I celebrated my mother’s 50th birthday, and a ton of other birthdays, I finished another semester of school, I found a new favorite beer, two of my best friends graduated, and the universe removed all of the negative energy and negative people from my life. I could keep going but I’m sure you guys don’t care about all that happened to us! 😄
Here are a few of our wonderful celebrations:
The birth of our daughter. A three day long, painful, but beautiful experience. We welcomed Princess Anaís into the world on April of 2017. You can read my birth story here.
My hubby and I both had the joy of celebrating our first dedicated days as parents. Mother’s Day and Father’s Day ❤️
We celebrated Memorial Day, Labor Day, and The Fourth of July.
I married my soulmate. One of the most beautiful and best days of my life! We spent some time away from our soldierI documented all of Anaís monthly milestones. If you follow me on Instagram, you’ll see my countless pictures and creative ways I capture those moments ☺️
I can’t believe she’ll be 9 months in two weeks! And I also took countless photos of her just because ❤️ But we also can’t forget our first holidays spent together as a family of three and as husband and wife!! And most recently, our date night at Rockefeller Center! You can read about our adventure here. Resolutions: A few of my goals for 2018 is to continue shedding this baby weight. I’ve been going to the gym with my husband for a few months now and I already see such great results. I’m working on making it my lifestyle again.
Anaís is at that stage where she copies everything we do. I want to teach her a healthy lifestyle. I don’t want Anaís to have any negative thoughts about the way she looks. This brings me to my next resolution, to have a better body image. When I was a size 2 I wasn’t happier with how I looked than when I was a size 8. I want my daughter to see herself as beautiful. I plan on teaching her that numbers on a scale don’t matter. Comparing yourself to others isn’t the way to live your life. I plan on leading by example.
A lovely mom I follow on Instagram @mytribeofsix said it best:
“How to talk to your daughter about her body.
step one: Don’t talk to your daughter about her body, except to teach her how it works.
Don’t say anything if she’s lost weight. Don’t say anything if she’s gained weight.
If you think your daughter’s body looks amazing, don’t say that. Here are some things you can say instead: “You look so healthy!” is a great one.
Or how about, “You’re looking so strong.” “I can see how happy you are — you’re glowing.” Better yet, compliment her on something that has nothing to do with her body.
Don’t comment on other women’s bodies either. Nope. Not a single comment, not a nice one or a mean one.
Teach her about kindness towards others, but also kindness towards yourself.
Don’t you dare talk about how much you hate your body in front of your daughter, or talk about your new diet. In fact, don’t go on a diet in front of your daughter. Buy healthy food. Cook healthy meals. But don’t say, “I’m not eating carbs right now.” Your daughter should never think that carbs are evil, because shame over what you eat only leads to shame about yourself.
Encourage your daughter to run because it makes her feel less stressed. Encourage your daughter to climb mountains because there is nowhere better to explore your spirituality than the peak of the universe. Encourage your daughter to surf, or rock climb, or mountain bike because it scares her and that’s a good thing sometimes.
Help your daughter love soccer or rowing or hockey because sports make her a better leader and a more confident woman. Explain that no matter how old you get, you’ll never stop needing good teamwork. Never make her play a sport she isn’t absolutely in love with.
Prove to your daughter that women don’t need men to move their furniture.
Teach your daughter how to cook kale.
Teach your daughter how to bake chocolate cake made with six sticks of butter.
Pass on your own mum’s recipe for Christmas morning coffee cake.
And pass on your love of being outside.”
Relationships: I wouldn’t say I lost any friends this year, because when it comes down to it they weren’t friends at all. Becoming a mom has opened my eyes to many things. I learned who my true friends were. I was able to rid my life of the people who were there only because they needed something, and the people who were selfish and disliked that my priorities changed. However, I’ve made some new and wonderful friends and for that I’m grateful. The universe got rid of the old and ugly to make way for the new and lovely! You can read more about the lessons I learned as a new mom, here. Career: I’m still going to school, YAY! I plan on continuing my education until I get my masters in psychology. Hopefully getting my doctorates and becoming a psychiatrist. Having Anaís hasn’t deterred me but rather pushed me and gave me more motivation to show her the right path. I understand school isn’t for everyone but it does open a lot of doors. I hope watching me go to school, walk across the stage, and getting my degree will inspire her to do the same.
Motherhood: We try our best but we can’t always control what our children do and who they become. I’m still learning about this motherhood thing and she’s my best teacher. Being a stay-at-home mom has been such a blessing. I wrote about the pros and cons in this blog post. It’s been a wonderful eight months with my princess and I cannot wait to see what happens over the next year. I already began planning her first birthday! It’s in less than four months!!! I’m both excited and sad. Time really does fly!
Social Media: I’ve been taking wonderful pictures of her over the course of the past eight months. However, when it comes to social media, my blog, Instagram (@douglashouseoflove), and Facebook, I want to start producing my media naturally. Obviously the lot of us want the perfect shot of our babies, with superb lighting and the best facial expression, but that isn’t real, is it? Unfortunately, I got caught up in perfecting all of her pictures that I lost sight of the purpose of them. I’ve been capturing all of her wonderful moments but I felt I haven’t been real or raw. In 2018 my pictures will be more organic. I want to share more of her beautiful, candid moments. I hope you’ll all enjoy those pictures as much as I do!! And let’s be honest, aren’t all pictures of our babies, perfect? ☺️❤️
Although this year has been one of the happiest, I feel 2018 will have even better things in store for the Douglas family. I have quite a few resolutions (more like goals I plan on crushing), and wonderful adventures awaiting me and my little family! So cheers to a wonderful 2017 and an even better 2018! 🎉🥂
The Douglas Family